Attraction is not a choice!  Is that something new for you to hear? If so this book would be brilliant for you to read and so would other David Deangelo ebooks.  If it was something you've hear before, then you've probably read other David Deangelo ebooks or listened/watched his other work.

If you have heard the term "Attraction is not a choice" before then you know that David Deangelo's ebooks are good. And this is extremely good and goes into more detail with his "Attraction  isn't a choice" motto.

This book goes into very good detail on the state of "attraction". What is it? How does it happen?  Its all revealed.

Attraction Isn't a Choice

Attraction is not a choice -

• Do you get it?
• Preparing for change
• The Secret Excuse
• Fear of Failure on approach and how to get over it
• Pattern with Women
• The evolution and biology with attraction
• Creating attraction
• Building Attraction

Plus, other useful information and knowledge such as "Most guys do exactly the wrong thing when they date attractive women".

Want to know?  Then its in your best interest to read this interesting book! So READ THIS NOW!

Purpose of this programme is to educate you on how to get a firm understanding that attraction is not a choice and how much of a powerful idea it is that you can carry around for the rest of your life. David Deangelo's books, especially this one will fulfill this.

David Deangelo - Attraction isn't a Choice

• Following common social courtesy is bad for attraction
• Don’t need to fit in, don’t need approval
• Higher you’re standards are, the more she will try make you think more of her
• In any situation you can gain or lose attraction from various different acts
• If you don’t spark attraction at the beginning you have little chance of getting it later
• Issue that girls have with belt not matching the shoes

• A woman looks first and foremost to see if you “get it”.  Which is do you “get” how to get her to feel attraction
• She wants a man who can totally control his emotions and how to be totally cool and calm in any situation.  Finally she wants a man who is totally self-confident and knows that he can have whatever he wants in life

• Beliefs we have –

1. I need to approach and pursue women
2. I need to convince women that I’m worthy of their approval
3. I shouldn’t accept a woman
4. I’d better not mess this up, because I have a lot to lose
5. If she rejects me, it will be an important event and carry a lot of meaning
6. I’d better impress her as often as I can
7. I should let her be in control
8. If attractive women aren’t interested in me, then I must be the problem
9. Nice guys finish first, so I’d better be nice

• A real man is a lot rarer to find that a beautiful woman – Beautiful women are everywhere

• What’s your secret excuse?
• The reason for failure is inside us – It’s the way we think and behave
• To overcome the “secret excuse” you can –

1. Look at other people who have overcome the same problem which will show you it can be done
2. Need an education into women and what makes them feel attraction

• A lot of men think that a woman’s attractive mechanism works the same way as themselves – By physical appearance
• Your personality can outweigh any thing you deem as physical attractiveness

• If you don’t make your approach within that brief moment of noticing her – You are more than likely never will
• Getting through the hurdle of first approaching is that brief moment is the most difficult
• Failure to not a permanent state, it is only a time to learn

1. If you’re in a high-risk situation with a very low possibility of getting a good return, then use your creative mind to figure out how to avoid it
2. If you are in a low-risk situation and you have a very high possibility of getting a good return then use your creative mind to figure out how to take advantage of it

• Ask your brain what might go RIGHT?
• What would she really enjoy about you? –

1. She is bored, she’d love talking to me
2. I’m funny, she could use a laugh
3. She’ll be flattered that a guy is talking to her
4. She’s dressed that way to get attention so she’ll enjoy mine

• Doesn’t matter if she is taken, just have the goal of “Just make her smile”
• Don’t be afraid of the unknown!
• Women are not a scarce commodity
• Remember, when you are dealing with a woman who is badly behaved – She is easily replaceable
• If you begin to over treat a woman or bow to her command just remember “There are billions of woman on this planet”
• Keep a mindset of “I’ll enjoy this woman’s company as long as it’s a good thing.  The moment that she becomes a strain or a pain, I’m out of here.  I don’t need problems or drama in my life and my happiness is more important than any woman”
• Speed of implementation – Faster you embed a new idea in your life the more likely it will be a good move

1. Self image - The clearer your self-image, the clearer you can see what you can change
2. Definite major purpose – Knowing what you want
3. Believe anything is possible – Belief in success
4. Commitment to outcomes – You have to care deeply enough about what is at stake to make difficult decisions – Take them
5. Understanding your mind – Understand the psychology of your mind and realise it’s not logical why you feel
6. Experience – Go through the real events so you can read data and start making improvements
7. Reference Group – Can bring you new ideas that you couldn’t see on your own – Fresh perspective

• Knowing these makes you a strong, mentally healthy person

• Decide that you’re going to start a conversation, no matter how short with every single woman you meet from now on
• Tease, flirt and have fun at all times

• “Security is mostly a superstition.  It does not exist in nature, nor so do the children of men as a whole experience it.  Avoiding danger is no safer in the long run than outright exposure.  Life is either a daring adventure or nothing”

• The animal inside knows exactly what to-do in every situation.   If we weren’t hindered by all the social bullshit conditioning we’d know exactly how to get a woman we found attractive

• Things that trigger it –

1. Dominance of her, others
2. Strength – physical, emotional, intellectual
3. Novelty seeking (adventurous)
4. Resources such as – Mental knowledge, learning ability, analytical
5. Physical – Money, possessions
6. Looks

• Men have the potential to be all of the above

Part 2 – Creating Attraction

Chapter 4 – The Hidden Languages of Attraction


Posture

• Hold yourself so it shows “I’m the dominant male in this situation... I own this place”
• Use slow and calculated movements and gestures

Eye Contact

• Never look away first
• Don’t look at her like a psycho
• Make eye contact so it’s clear that you’re not afraid of her

Communicating with tone of voice

• Don’t talk with a weak, squeaky voice
• Speak with a deeper voice from your stomach
• Speak slower and articulate every word better
• Be comfortable pausing

Strength to be Yourself

• When you don’t conform and be different to what is expected you show that you are strong and value your own beliefs
• A guy who gets it - A guy who lives in his own reality doesn’t care about what people think of him and he doesn’t take a personal reflection of himself if others don’t like him.  He doesn’t care, he’s the leader in my own life
• Use these to show you are the man and you are in control –

1. Dry Humour
2. Unflappability
3. Indifference
4. Seriousness
5. Mystery
6. Tension
7. Challenge
8. Total Confidence and Comfort

• When two people meet they unconsciously search for who is going to be in control.  Make sure the girl knows you are in control

Chapter 5 – Building Attraction


Connecting to Social Proof

• If you don’t fit the social image of attractive to girls you must not focus on the negatives – work on – a clean appearance, good breath, no body Oder and a healthy weight
• Focus on the positive aspects of past relationships – Focusing on the bad makes her think of you as having low standards
• To be valuable and attractive keep yourself rare
• The act of getting killed the act of wanted
• If you want to create attraction for a woman you must never be “gamed”
• Never be 100% on what you’re going to do next – mystery – keep them guessing, they think about you more
• Be hard to get

Two steps forward, one step back

• We don’t realise how much we want things we have until you lose them
• Deliberately stop when things are working in order to accelerate the process – If you find something she likes, stop doing it, then wait awhile and do it again
• This shows “I know that I could make a move right now, but I choose not to.  I’m going to keep you guessing... make no mistake about it, I’m in control of myself here”

Giver her, just a taste

• When you give her anything... give her just a taste

Give her the gift of missing you

• Once you start spending time with her, makes sure you leave her alone from time to time
• Attraction requires space

Chapter 6 – Attitude and Composure

• “The past doesn’t equal the future”
• As soon as the conversation starts go in to cocky and funny mode

James Bond never whines

• Real men never whine about anything

James Bond doesn’t rush things

• A man who doesn’t give out physical affection right away and takes it back – Women want s this because they’re not sure if they can have it
• It is boring when she knows where you are
• Believing – “I’m the man, others do what I want.  I’m in control of reality and this situation.  I’m a cause in the world and I get what I want” but at the same time not making it obvious you want her creates tension that is almost magnetic

Summary of the attitude

• Be cool, calm and collected
• Don’t be weak and tentative
• Make your own decisions and then act on them confidently
• Don’t seek approval and treat difficult attitudes with indifference
• Don’t let things impress you easily
• Don’t get all self-conscious about your mistakes.  Acknowledge them with light humour but don’t try to hide or excuse them
• Never excuse your behaviour and don’t say, “Oh I’m sorry” Instead, have fun and blame mistakes on her
• Don’t be always checking whether or not she is happy.  Allow her to take care of herself or come to you when she wants help
• Adopt a “So, entertain me” attitude and ask her to make on effort for you
• Remember – Stability comes from staying load back and being unaffected by dramatics.  Deal with her throwing a fit or getting upset, with a smile point out that “You like it” and turn her game around

Chapter 7 – Most guys do exactly the wrong things when they date attractive women

• Romance doesn’t create attraction, it amplifies existing attraction

Attraction vs. Impressing

• Attract, don’t impress
• Trying to impress her shows you’re attracted to her
• Never give a woman what she wants – If she says pick me up at 7, you can say “I’ll pick you up at 7:30” – Don’t ever give exactly what she wants

Part 3 – Turning it up

Chapter 8 – Don’t bore her

• Boring men aren’t attractive

Don’t be predictable

• Be different – Even show you’re not interested
• Don’t tell her that you like her or have feelings for her
• Responding to real drama from women
• If she asks you a serious question – Don’t give her the answer you think will please her “I drive a scooter... it only fits one... so you can’t have a ride”

Reframe ass kissers

• When you notice a guy acting like a wuss say “(Shake your head) isn’t that sad?” “When a guy does something like that you can tell that he is probably a really nice guy with good intentions and he’d like nothing more than to be with you but then he goes and kisses your ass like that... what a shame.  He doesn’t get it; he has no idea what is attractive to a woman”

Talk about sex

• Discussing sex is not only ok but it is very good – Makes you look like you’re not a wuss who is afraid of it
• Comment on her having such a dirt mind if she says anything that can be taken sexually

Chapter 9 – Cocky comedy in detail


Cocky Comedy Communicates

1. That you are an “alpha” male
2. Humour requires intelligence and creativity.  Cocky and funny comes across as “superiority”
3. It says “I get it”
4. It’s unbelievably easy and low risk so it’s easy to show who is in control

Why does cocky comedy attract women?

• Because it quickly and directly says all the right things about you
• It would be arrogant to say “That guy over there is ugly” but cocky and funny would be “That guy over looks like he fell off the ugly tree, hit every branch on the way down, then gnawed on the root with his face”
• Don’t use cocky comedy all the time
• Don’t laugh or smile very often

Flirting

• Attraction must be sparkled right at the beginning and must be sparked by you
• “Hi, I realise that you’ve probably shy because you get no attention from men... so I thought I’d come over here and pay attention to you”
• Mention stuff like – How the relationship isn’t going to work – Overly dramatic complaints about her job performance, behaviour – Behave like you could take her or lose her and she’s a good friend

You can get the videos directly from David Deangelo at www.doubleyourdating.com. Look out for more free dating for men summaries or more information on attraction is not a choice from David Deangelo's ebooks soon.

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